'Watch. Your. Kids': Entitled mom lets 4-year-old run wild at wedding and grab a chunk of cake, balks when bride flips out

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    AITA for not apologizing to my friend after she screamed at me and my kid at her wedding?
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    Two weeks ago, I (F29), Hubby (M31), and Son (M4) attended my BFF's (F28) wedding. It was a beautiful ceremony, and everything was going great, until BFF and her husband cut the cake.
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    Important context, BFF did speak to me during her wedding planning about being unsure on whether or not to allow kids at her wedding. Her 2 sisters both have kids around son's age, and she sees him as her nephew, too. But, she wanted to be able to let loose and enjoy her wedding without worrying about any kids
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    messing things up. I gave her my opinion, saying me and hubby allowed kids at our wedding and wouldn't have it any other way. The kids were still family and deserved to be included. After that, and speaking with her sisters, she and her husband Oked kids for the wedding.
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    Now, the ceremony went swimmingly. BFF's nieces sat with me, hubby, and son, as her sisters were in the bridal party. I brought quiet activities to keep them entertained and everybody behaved. I even cried from how lovely it was.
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    When we got to the reception, nieces were returned to their parents, so it was now just me, Hubby, and Son. Dinner went fine, and then the couple took to the dance floor for their first dance. Afterwards, everybody was welcomed to the floor to dance for a bit before cake
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    cutting. At this point, the kids were running around and playing with each other and it was a fairly secure space and I knew almost everybody there, so I felt comfortable with Son playing with the other kids while Hubby and I had fun dancing. Important to mention now, Hubby offered to DD so I could enjoy myself, so I had had a couple glasses of wine at this point. BFF had also been drinking and celebrating.
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    BFF and her husband go to do cake cutting, and hubby and I are a little slow getting there, so there was a crowd blocking our view. Suddenly, I hear BFF SCREAM Son's name. Hubby and I push forward to see what's wrong. I see my son with frosting around his mouth and on his fingers. The cake had a small
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    chunk taken out of it. I try to apologize, but BFF turns around and yells, "This is YOUR FAULT. Your son RUINED my cake. He's only here because YOU told me it would be worth it to include the kids!" I yelled back, telling her that it was just an accident and the rest of the cake was still
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    edible. That this was her nephew she was screaming about. She told me I was no friend of hers and he wasn't her nephew, in front of everyone. She told me to leave or she'd call security. Son and I were crying atp and the 3 of us left.
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    One of the bride's sisters reached out to me after and apologized for her sister's reaction, but said I needed to apologize. I think sorries are out the window now after her outburst. I told her sister so and said I expect an apology first before I'd say anything to her. Not only did she blow up at me in front of everyone, but at my son. I'm humiliated but even more angry on his behalf. So, AITA if I refuse to apologize first?
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    sheramom4.13 hr. ago YTA. Your child is very young and in need of supervision. It doesn't matter how secure the location is, there are a lot of things that are NOT secure (like cake, glasses, etc) in the venue.
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    Not only should you apologize, you should have apologized right then and there instead of reacting with "The rest of the cake is still edible (because gross. I doubt your kid had washed his hands in awhile) and "It was an accident." It
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    wasn't an accident. Your kid is young so it wasn't malicious but it certainly wasn't an accident. You also need to pay at least part of the cost of the cake because that tier was not edible.
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    AllAFantasy30 - 13 hr. ago YTA. Your son taking a big bite out of the wedding cake wasn't an accident. He did it because he wanted some cake and didn't want to wait. He's 4, but you could have told him not to touch the cake. This would have been avoided if you'd been supervising
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    him properly. You do need to apologize to your friend for being neglectful to the point where your son ruined the wedding cake. Parents like you who let their kids run rampant then don't take real responsibility are the reason so many people don't want kids at events like this.
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    -snowflower 13 hr. ago • No wonder her kid felt like he could go around biting cakes that he knew weren't for him. He has no consequences! Even his mother refuses to apologize so why would he feel the need to?
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    zzWoWzz 13 hr. ago YTA She allowed kids based on your assurance that having kids at the wedding would be okay. It's most especially egregious when the one person who said kids deserved to be included to be the one whose kid over her wedding
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    celebration. It is a big deal. It is a once in a lifetime event. Hopefully she is not getting a second wedding. You're an for not watching your kids after blabbering how they should have kids at the wedding. And doubly so for not apologizing.
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    • Ink-and-Ivy 13 hr. ago INFO I guess I'm not sure I understand why you weren't watching your son at all? I get that you knew most of the people there and trusted them. That's awesome! But this was still a big party with alcohol and, I would assume, readily
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    accessible exits. Your son is a toddler and there are a lot of ways for a child that young to get hurt or cause trouble even in a room full of people you know. You didn't even know where he was at the point that this happened. That strikes me as really weird, especially since you were so intent on having him there in the first place.
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    hubertburnette 14 hr. ago YTA to a raging degree, and surely you know that. Not because you advocated having kids at the wedding but because you weren't even vaguely aware of what your son was doing. Your son did. ruin their cake. How you
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    responded made you double TA, and then refusing to apologize made you triple TA. I'm so sorry your son has a parent as irresponsible and such a bad role model as you.
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    Guinevere Morgann ⚫ 14 hr. ago YTA. Watch. Your. Kids. She didn't want kids at her wedding, but you convinced her it would be ok. Then let your kid take a chunk out of her wedding cake. You do owe her an apology. Maybe next time, let people have events the way they want them.

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